Teenage parenting can be the BEST for some teens, but for most teens, they still struggle a lot with the child and other worries they have to now think about. A lot of young teenagers go back to school and let their mothers or a day-care look after their child, while they are at school. This is always a good thing for the teenager, but then there are some teenagers that do not go back to school.
Marriage is the one thing they would have to consider. Marrying the baby’s father and raising the child together would be frowned on, mainly if the teen is very young…14-16 years old. The father would then have to feel that he has the responsibility of a family to look after. If the father is also very young it is impossible that he would be responsible and mature enough for marriage, and even supporting a child. The father must be able to support his family if he does get married.
If the parents of the child decide not to get married and separate then the father is still going to have to pay child support towards his child. The teen mother also would have to try and find a good job so she can support her family. Trying to find a good job is a very hard thing to do if the teen didn’t even make it to the end of high school.
In the long run, a lot can go wrong. The teen would need to have a good sustainable job to keep her family going strong. We can now understand why God wants us to get married firstly and then have children. That is why God gave us His rules/principles. He gave them to us so we can live an easier life and also then it would not be so sinful by falling into the hands of the devil. God gives his rules for a purpose and we must obey them and know that if we do disobey we must acknowledge it and ask for forgiveness. A lot of the time the teen does not get married to the father and so she would have to look after the child all by herself, and I know from other experiences it is hard to be the only parent. A young mother says sadly, “That guy who shows up from time to time and gives me money isn’t the same thing as a father,” she has a child of her own, a two year old son and she wouldn’t have it any other way, but she only wishes that the father would come into the child’s life. She is also thankful to God that He gave her a son but she still knows that what she did was wrong.
Friday, July 3, 2009
The effects of pregnancy on the teenager
In the last post I talked about how teenage pregnancy is wrong and also about abortion, miscarriage and a lot about Gods Law. I know I didn’t really speak a lot about teenage pregnancy, but you can understand that the life of a teen mother would be extremely hard for some. Some one I know, who would like to be keep unnamed, had a child when she was just 17, but her experience were different from others. She explained that she didn’t have anything to loose. She had no friends, no social life, no house to pay for (because she was still living at ‘home’); she also had the support of her mum and dad, and all her siblings. She also explained that the pregnancy was not so bad, she didn’t become depressed, and she didn’t even have to ‘leave’ school because she was not at school anymore.
In other teenage lives, they find it difficult to deal with the pregnancy. They would have to quit school, when they are unable to keep on going, they lost their freedom, their life. It would seem that everything is not working out for them…like the unplanned pregnancy. However, a lot of teen mothers I know wouldn’t have it any other way!
Another effect of teenage pregnancy would be that they would be faced with adult decisions, and a lot of the time they can’t really handle it all, don’t forget some of these teenage mothers are only 14.
She would ‘wake up’ and realise that she is pregnant. She would feel absolutely overwhelmed by fear and anxiety of what she has done. She would not secretly see the doctor and arrange for an abortion, because she knows that that is sinning even more against Gods commandments. The only thing she could do is admit that she did wrong and ask for forgiveness by God. She has to realize that premarital sex is a sin against God. She would have to realize and acknowledge that what she did was wrong.
Although this may seem that it is an easy task to complete, put yourself in her position, and image trying to tell your mother and father that you are pregnant. This is only one small thing that the teen mother would have to go through, but then when she know that God has forgiven her and that she acknowledge that she did wrong, God would help her through the rest of the pregnancy.
One major effect of a pregnancy for a teen is school. The teen would have to give up school because of the baby; they would not have the ability to continue studying, and a lot of the time they would end up with a job that is unlikely to support the family. With leaving school they would leave their friends and also they would have to leave behind their social life, which can be extremely hard for some young teen mothers. Their freedom would disappear. They would not be able to go out to parties, where all her friends are, she would not be able to go and enjoy life. This factor can easily make a teenage mother depressed.
The depression, frustration, fear, and other emotional problems can not only affect the teenage mother but also the child. Bad behaviour and activities might occur because of the depression and fear. These actions can consist of drinking, smoking, the use of drugs, the lack of sleep and unhealthy eating patterns. The frustration of these teen mothers can be detrimental. Some are so depressed and afraid that they are close to committing suicide. The only thing that teenage mothers must remember is that what they did was wrong, and if they admit that, then they are sure to be ok, because God will look after them.
In other teenage lives, they find it difficult to deal with the pregnancy. They would have to quit school, when they are unable to keep on going, they lost their freedom, their life. It would seem that everything is not working out for them…like the unplanned pregnancy. However, a lot of teen mothers I know wouldn’t have it any other way!
Another effect of teenage pregnancy would be that they would be faced with adult decisions, and a lot of the time they can’t really handle it all, don’t forget some of these teenage mothers are only 14.
She would ‘wake up’ and realise that she is pregnant. She would feel absolutely overwhelmed by fear and anxiety of what she has done. She would not secretly see the doctor and arrange for an abortion, because she knows that that is sinning even more against Gods commandments. The only thing she could do is admit that she did wrong and ask for forgiveness by God. She has to realize that premarital sex is a sin against God. She would have to realize and acknowledge that what she did was wrong.
Although this may seem that it is an easy task to complete, put yourself in her position, and image trying to tell your mother and father that you are pregnant. This is only one small thing that the teen mother would have to go through, but then when she know that God has forgiven her and that she acknowledge that she did wrong, God would help her through the rest of the pregnancy.
One major effect of a pregnancy for a teen is school. The teen would have to give up school because of the baby; they would not have the ability to continue studying, and a lot of the time they would end up with a job that is unlikely to support the family. With leaving school they would leave their friends and also they would have to leave behind their social life, which can be extremely hard for some young teen mothers. Their freedom would disappear. They would not be able to go out to parties, where all her friends are, she would not be able to go and enjoy life. This factor can easily make a teenage mother depressed.
The depression, frustration, fear, and other emotional problems can not only affect the teenage mother but also the child. Bad behaviour and activities might occur because of the depression and fear. These actions can consist of drinking, smoking, the use of drugs, the lack of sleep and unhealthy eating patterns. The frustration of these teen mothers can be detrimental. Some are so depressed and afraid that they are close to committing suicide. The only thing that teenage mothers must remember is that what they did was wrong, and if they admit that, then they are sure to be ok, because God will look after them.
Teenage Pregnancy and God's Law
‘Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it…’ Genesis 1:28. This doesn’t NOT mean get pregnant at the age of 13 or even older, 16, 17 or 18 years old just to ‘fill’ the earth. We also have to obey God’s other principles, like for example, don’t not commit adultery, do not kill…ect. God commands us that we are allowed to have children but when we are married. We have to keep are bodies pure in the sight of God, therefore when a teenager or even a lady who is outside of holy wedlock falls pregnant. This is absolutely wrong! God commands us to keep our body pure, and holy, we are not allowed to fall to the human desires of lust or sexual immorality. Our bodies is the temple of the Holy Spirit, whom God gave to us; 1 Corinthians 6:19.
I do believe that teenage pregnancy is wrong, mainly because it is all about what the teenager wanted before, sexual intercourse. This is that right way going against what God commanded us, to keep our bodies pure.
I know a lot of people take this out of context. When they see a teenager or an unmarried woman pregnant, they would think that they were wrong and they should do something about it and now days the thought would be abortion!
I fully disagree with abortion; I believe that if a woman falls pregnant it is a gift from God, no matter what they did to fall pregnant. God makes it clear the abortion is wrong, Exodus 20:13, ‘You shall not murder,’ and also if a woman gives birth prematurely because of a fight or something, then that particular person who fort would be guilty of murder, even though the child is not born yet, Exodus 21:22,23. Abortion is murder, but miscarriage is God saying the baby needs to come home now.
Miscarriage is extremely different then abortion. For some females miscarriage is very depressing and heartbreaking for them but abortion is when the women do not want the child. In these cases some women do suffer from their actions of the abortion.
A lot of the time people take God out of the equation. They sometimes believe that if God DID exist He wouldn’t make ‘those’ females pregnant. ‘Those’, being the females who do not want the child and who would abort. Everyone has to acknowledge that God is in control and that He decides EVERYTHING, including those little children who are not even born yet.
In Gods eyes the life of any embryo—including one conceived out of wedlock—is precious. Therefore, we can conclude that even if a teenager falls pregnant, she should NOT abort because it is murdering a child, which is against Gods law. Even if she conceives when she is not married, abortion is not an option. The only option for aborting a child is if it is risking the mothers life, and there the mother can chose what is best, to die herself and let her child live or to abort the child and survive herself.
So what would happen if a teenager gets pregnant out of holy wedlock and can not handle the pregnancy? Would you abort? What if the teenager gets pregnant because a male raped her and she is depressed and dejected that she wants to abort?
We all know life is hard, but if we know that God is always with us we will make it. Even if life turns on us and brings out the worst, we always know that everything that happens is for our benefit.
I do believe that teenage pregnancy is wrong, mainly because it is all about what the teenager wanted before, sexual intercourse. This is that right way going against what God commanded us, to keep our bodies pure.
I know a lot of people take this out of context. When they see a teenager or an unmarried woman pregnant, they would think that they were wrong and they should do something about it and now days the thought would be abortion!
I fully disagree with abortion; I believe that if a woman falls pregnant it is a gift from God, no matter what they did to fall pregnant. God makes it clear the abortion is wrong, Exodus 20:13, ‘You shall not murder,’ and also if a woman gives birth prematurely because of a fight or something, then that particular person who fort would be guilty of murder, even though the child is not born yet, Exodus 21:22,23. Abortion is murder, but miscarriage is God saying the baby needs to come home now.
Miscarriage is extremely different then abortion. For some females miscarriage is very depressing and heartbreaking for them but abortion is when the women do not want the child. In these cases some women do suffer from their actions of the abortion.
A lot of the time people take God out of the equation. They sometimes believe that if God DID exist He wouldn’t make ‘those’ females pregnant. ‘Those’, being the females who do not want the child and who would abort. Everyone has to acknowledge that God is in control and that He decides EVERYTHING, including those little children who are not even born yet.
In Gods eyes the life of any embryo—including one conceived out of wedlock—is precious. Therefore, we can conclude that even if a teenager falls pregnant, she should NOT abort because it is murdering a child, which is against Gods law. Even if she conceives when she is not married, abortion is not an option. The only option for aborting a child is if it is risking the mothers life, and there the mother can chose what is best, to die herself and let her child live or to abort the child and survive herself.
So what would happen if a teenager gets pregnant out of holy wedlock and can not handle the pregnancy? Would you abort? What if the teenager gets pregnant because a male raped her and she is depressed and dejected that she wants to abort?
We all know life is hard, but if we know that God is always with us we will make it. Even if life turns on us and brings out the worst, we always know that everything that happens is for our benefit.
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